I hope all of you wonderful mamas out there had a fabulous Mother’s Day today! I had a roller coaster of a Mother’s Day myself, which when I think about it, is probably what all moms of young children have on Mother’s Day.
I think there is WAY too much pressure on moms to have this picture perfect, lovey dovey, emotional day on Mother’s Day and it just never seems to go the way we plan it in our heads.
I have 4 moms I try to see each year on Mother’s Day (my own mom, my mother-in-law, my godmother and my stepmom!). That always leads to a busy day, so our day started off on a good foot while my husband CLEANED and then cooked for myself and his mom, dad, my dad and stepmom. Then I dashed off to the vet to take our pup in for her 3rd round of vaccinations. I happen to really like our vet so that part was fun (despite the whole butt cheese incident but I will spare you the details on that story haha!). After our vet visit we headed off to the beach with my mom. We arrived and had some fun finding starfish, crabs and the like. Then when we headed over for fish and chips is when our day went pear shaped and we ended up with a screaming, tantrum throwing toddler. I DREAD these moments with our 3.5 year old. They don’t happen often (particularly not in public), but when they do, they are thoroughly embarrassing. Even moreso on Mother’s Day! After a few minutes of trying to calm her down I told her if she didn’t stop we’d have to leave right away. Only then she did NOT stop and we actually had to follow through. Cue me storming back to the car, screaming toddler in tow and tons of onlookers staring at me. If any of you readers were there today I apologize for our scene. We had a tense car ride home and then FINALLY arrived at the house I grew up in where my mom and my godmother live. Ella just loves my godmom so she was THRILLED to be somewhere that everyone wasn’t upset with her and we all had a few moments of peace to calm down. We visited with “Nana Jean” and her cat, Mr. Bigglesworth and were ready to head home and deal with the consequences of the day.
Unfortunately for our little lady, she has lost her toy privileges until she earns them back with good behaviour and she had to go to bed early tonight. Days like these are the ones that ALWAYS seem to happen with events like Mother’s Day when you just want everyone to get along and behave themselves. Days like these are the ones that moms don’t talk about enough because when they happen, they tend to make us feel like the worst parents on the planet so we hide it and just feel embarrassed. All it would have taken to make me feel better during the Crescent Beach Meltdown of 2012 would be for ONE mom there to stop me and say “I have SO been there too and you’ll make it through okay” instead of staring at me, mouths agape as though they have never seen something like this before in their lives. I hope when we make it through this stage and our 3 year old daughter is older and more lucid, I can be that supportive voice for another mom on Mother’s Day (or any other day) if I ever see someone having a rough go of things the way I did today. Let’s all do each other a favour and stop pretending that motherhood is all roses and sunshine. It’s roses and sunshine AND tantrums and exhaustion. It is all very worth it, but this Mother’s Day I have decided to accept and embrace the fact that life is not perfect, I am not perfect and neither is my baby girl…and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Commence series of photos that will make you forget anything about that crazy tantrum I just rambled about (kind of the way this is how I will see this Mother’s Day a couple of years from now when I forget about the tantrum part of the day and only remember these bits hahaha!)